Candice's LJ

Well, no sooner do we get his apartment cleaned up, then Brett decides to move. Well, he really he had to, since his building decided to jack his rent $200 a month, and his budget is already tight. So, he's leaving North Hollywood, and is now mostly moved into a new place in Northridge. It's a smaller building, with fewer residents. And it's a much nicer apartment, with significantly more closet space, a bigger living room and kitchen, more windows for more natural light, enough space for a nice dining room set (if you put even a small table in the "dining space" of the old place, you'd have to be a contortionist to get into the kitchen), and a better kitchen. Overall, the new place is a lot nicer than the old one.

Upside of his moving: He's moved into a much bigger 2 bedroom place (the old place was just 1 bedroom and cramped, cramped, cramped) that's only $50 a month more than than the old place.

Downside of his moving: He's a lot closer to my place now, and is acting like he expects us to spend a lot more time together. We already see each other 3 days a week, and this week I've seen him everyday, except for Tuesday, because I've been helping him move. And there's still Friday and Saturday left.

Now, it's not that I don't like spending time with Brett, but I also like having time to myself. There are days I expect to have to myself. When I don't want anyone coming over, where I don't want to go out. I can take time to read, watch a game, take care of things around the house (I haven't had time to do a lick of housework this week, the laundry and dishes stand out as clear testament to how little time I've spent at home the past few days), run my errands, or even just to veg and waste time on the computer. I'm old enough to be pretty well set in my rhythms and not like having them disrupted on someone else's whim.

He's not too happy with my lack of desire to spend more time together. I suppose it's not the best girlfriend form to not want to spend as much time as possible with my SO, but I consider it to be just as important that I have time for myself that's not spent at work, or taking care of the Brett's desires or those of other people, giving away time that I then can't spend taking time for myself or my own business.

I suppose all this has made it pretty clear to anyone reading this (not that anyone does read this thing but me) that there are reasons why I'm not married, or why we don't live together. You can say I'm not big on lots of togetherness.